Are you wondering how counselling and psychotherapy might be helpful to you?

What is Counselling and Psychotherapy?

Therapy takes place within a private and confidential setting, where you can feel safe to explore problems without feeling judged and it gives you time to think and reflect on what is impacting your life and helps put positive changes in place. Counselling and Psychotherapy offers the opportunity to put things into perspective and assists towards gaining a deeper understanding of your relationships and develop greater self-awareness. It helps you to recognise emotions, thoughts and behaviours that perhaps hold you back or are interfering with your day-to-day life and in time, you will think more positively, clearly and calmly, leading you towards feeling better about yourself. 

We will take time to explore and understand the unconscious aspects of your behaviours, thoughts and feelings and by doing so, we will be able to identify what is contributing to emotions that you feel are perhaps hindering or upsetting you in some way. You may wish to explore your issues from a here and now perspective, or you might wish to focus upon making changes for your future and perhaps also want time to explore the meaning of what has happened to you in your past and find ways in which you can change and feel more at ease with yourself.

As well as being the facilitator towards better mental health, counselling and psychotherapy doesn’t just resolve emotional and psychological difficulties. It can be a catalyst for personal growth and development and the key to unlocking and discovering your true authentic self.

There are many reasons why people come for Counselling and Psychotherapy. Some people come for very specific mental health challenges and others because they need to talk to someone about how they are feeling or wish to explore a particular life challenge they are facing. Talking to friends and family isn’t always an option and so having a safe confidential space where you can talk without fearing judgement, just be yourself and feel truly understood can be life-changing.

Some examples of why someone might come to therapy include:

Domestic, Physical, Psychological, Emotional, Sexual, Neglect, Self-Neglect, Abandonment, Financial, Discrimination, Modern Slavery, Bullying, Gaslighting

Alcohol, Substance Misuse, Shopping, Sex, Gambling, Hoarding, Gaming, Social Media, Exercise, Kleptomania, Food, Internet, Risky Behaviour

Temper Tantrums, Arguments, Fighting, Physical Violence. Inward Anger: Self-Harm, Isolating behaviours, Negative Self-Talk, Self-Punishing. Passive: Silent-Treatment, Sulking, Sarcasm, Snide Remarking

Panic Attacks, Stress, Worry, Obsessive Compulsive Behaviours (OCD) Generalised Anxiety, Social Anxiety, Separation Anxiety, Phobias, Agoraphobia, Medical Condition related anxiety, Substance Use related anxiety

Bereavement, Grief, Loss, Loneliness, Isolation

Defiance, Outbursts, Impulsive Responses, Pyromania, Kleptomania

Low Self-Esteem, Confidence, Self-Worth, Self-belief, No sense of Belonging or Acceptance, Trust Issues, Love or Intimacy Issues

Pica, Rumination, Avoidance or Restrictive Eating, Bulimia, Binge eating, Anorexia, Purging

Life-Limiting or Terminal Illness Diagnosis, Living with a Progressive or Chronic Illness, Living with Medically Unexplained Pain or Discomfort, Living with a Life-Limiting or Restricting Disability

Financial Difficulties, Physical or Learning Disability, Major Life Changes; Work related concerns, Housing Issues, Social Withdrawal

Feelings of Guilt Shame Fear or Blame, Depression, Bi-polar disorder, Dysthymia, Cyclothymia, Mood Dysregulation, Sadness, Melancholy, Loneliness, Tearfulness, Emptiness, Hopelessness, Worthlessness, Hypersensitivity, Irritability, Aggression, Low mood, Seasonal Effectiveness Disorder (SAD), Menopause, Catastrophising, Negative Thinking

OCD, Body Dysmorphia, Hoarding, Trichotillomania, Excoriation, Obsessive Jealousy

Insomnia, Sleep Disturbance, Sleep Terrors, Nightmares, Narcolepsy

Parent-Child; Sibling – Sibling; Extended Family Relational Problems, Divorce or Separation, Spouse or Intimate Partner Issues, Extra-Marital Affairs, Housing or Economic Issues, Family Conflict

Voyeurism, Exhibitionism, Frotteurism, Masochism, Sadism, Paedophilia, Fetishism

Paranoia, Distorted Thinking, Detachment, Eccentric or Antisocial Behaviour, Borderline Personality Disorder, Histrionic or Narcissistic, Personality Change

Immediate, Unreasonable or Irrational Fears relating to Nature, the Environment, Injury, Animals, Situations, or Physiological

Preconception, IVF, Perinatal, Antenatal, Post Natal Depression, Postpartum Psychosis, Miscarriage, Termination

Schizophrenia, Schizoaffective Disorder, Delusions, Hallucinations, Disorganised or Abnormal Behaviours, Post-Partum Psychosis

Friendships; Work; Family; Romantic

Cutting, Biting, Scratching, Head Banging, Punching Self, Alcohol and Substance use, Burning, Hair or Eyelash pulling, Medication Misuse, Ingesting or Inhaling Poisonous or Harmful substances, Risky Behaviour

Unexplained Pain and physical discomfort disrupting daily life

Intoxication, Withdrawal, Restlessness, Nervousness, Depression, Concentration, Fatigue, Remission, Hallucinations

Suicidal ideation, intent, fleeting thoughts, Severe Emotional Pain and Feelings of Helplessness and Hopelessness, Previously attempted suicide

Attachment issues, Social Engagement issues, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Acute Stress, Adjustment Disorders, Trauma - current, recent or past event, Trauma – acute, chronic or complex, Flashbacks, Acute Stress, Distressing Memories

Transforms Wounds Into Wisdom

Benefits of Therapy

  • It offers the opportunity to focus on areas of your life where you might feel challenged & overwhelmed.
  • It will help deal with elements of life that might throw you off balance.
  • It gives you a safe, confidential, non-judgemental, compassionate place to talk where perhaps talking to friends or family isn’t an option
  • It’s the chance to prioritise your own well-being and self-care.
  • It helps address your fears, anxieties, worries, difficult emotions, anger, pain, sadness or loss
  • It will help you to heal & move forward in a positive way.
  • It will stimulate your sense of curiosity & increase your self-awareness
  • It will help you embrace change.
  • You can explore your concerns in the here & now and also journey into your past experiences and your childhood to understand what might be affecting your present-day world
  • It will help you understand how your past experiences inform who you are today.
  • It offers a chance to experience a unique relationship of implicit trust, openness & acceptance
  • It will give you the opportunity to gain a better understanding of yourself

How an Integrative Approach can help

Integrative psychotherapy brings together various psychotherapeutic approaches and has the view that no single approach is relevant for all situations. You as a client are unique and as such the therapeutic technique implemented must be tailored to your needs and the personal circumstances you present.

We are complex beings with complex thinking mechanisms and as such cannot have one brush stroke method applied to us. No one single theory can offer a comprehensive answer to all the personal challenges we face. The Integrative Approach takes into account that we all have different personalities, characteristics, experiences and individual needs and hence why those differences are reflected by the use of different approaches that match those varied human elements we all possess.

However, when all is said and done, for therapy to work, it must at the heart of it have a strong, containing, trusting relationship between therapist and client. That is when the work truly begins.

What can you expect from therapy?

At times, therapy may feel very challenging and possibly even unbearable as we explore together the conflicts you are battling with internally. You will gain insight and profound awareness of yourself, which in time will bring with it relief and knowledge to help you change unhelpful patterns of behaviour, overcome difficult feelings and in turn improve your wellbeing. Often clients describe it as a roller-coaster experience of self-discovery but one that can profoundly change you for the better and help make positive healthy changes. It is a journey of constant self-discovery.

Counselling and Psychotherapy can help access deep-rooted concerns that may lie within our unconscious thoughts and may address problems that have developed over a longer period of time, often finding links with events or experiences that have occurred in your past. Together we may explore early life experiences and look at persistent or distressing emotional problems. You will unravel feelings which may have been burdening you for some time and are still impacting you in the here and now. 

Don't give up, You are not alone, You Matter

The Therapeutic Relationship.

Making a choice about which therapist to choose can be difficult and sometimes confusing. How you choose your therapist and what factors help you decide, must be down to you and not influenced by others. Feeling you can trust them, that you will feel safe with them, that you will be listened to, understood and not judged, should all form part of your decision-making process.

Taking that first step to get in touch can be terrifying and can evoke lots of mixed and unnerving feelings. It may add to the feelings of vulnerability, but this is absolutely normal. It also shows immense courage and inner strength that will undoubtedly form a part of the journey you are about to embark on.

With all this in mind, it is important that when choosing your therapist, you consider their qualifications, that they have undergone recognised and approved training, and are registered with a professional body recognised by the professional standards authority.

For psychotherapy and counselling to work, it will need you to trust and embrace the relationship. It will need commitment, patience, courage to face difficult emotions and for you to be kind and compassionate to yourself. As the relationship develops you will gain profound insight of yourself helping you to become more accepting of yourself, have a better understanding yourself which in time will enable positive change to happen. 

Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations

Beginning the Therapeutic Journey with Me

It is very natural to feel nervous and apprehensive about starting therapy. It takes great courage to even make that first step of making the enquiry. Sometimes asking for help can seem a daunting thought, perhaps even inconceivable. I know, I’ve been there myself and have experienced this first-hand and so can empathise wholeheartedly with the feelings you might be experiencing. But trust me, taking that first step can be life changing. 

When we talk for the first time, it will give us the opportunity to discuss whether psychotherapy or counselling would be helpful for you at this time. It will give you the chance to consider whether you feel we can work together and more importantly whether you will feel safe and comfortable to take that journey of self-discovery with me. 

I very much look forward to hearing from you and working alongside you whilst you embark on your journey of self-discover and better mental health and well-being.

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"I should have become an "I" before I became a "we"."

Irvin D Yalom